A powerful tool, concrete and delicious!

Those of you who follow my writing and the message I bring know that two of my favorite themes are learning not to be a victim of everyday life and dare to take risks.

Today I am sharing with you a delicious, concrete and powerful tool that has the potential to transform your life – the gratitude list.

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It’s easy!

What you need:

A pencil or pen and something to write on. You will place them close to your bed or on your desk.

How?

Every night before you sleep, write down everything that was positive in your day. Regardless of the trials, you were faced with in that day, write a list of things, people, and events that brought you well-being and made you grateful.

The point is not to write a novel!

In the beginning, especially when we are confronted with a particularly trying day, it may seem impossible. So we delve a little deeper and we write things that we tend to consider “a given,” such as,

-I am healthy -I have enough to eat -I have a comfortable bed -I have a job…

The following day may be a very good day and you’ll find plenty of other things to write, such as,

-My colleagues and I had a very nice lunch -My daughter scored 10 out of 10 in math -I love my yoga class -My sister visited me -It was sunny all day…

By practicing this little exercise every day, you will find that you’ll discover more and more ‘little things’ for which you are grateful that you were not necessarily conscious of!

-The cat is purring -My neighbor smiled at me -There was no traffic on the freeway -I heard an interesting interview on the radio…

In short, all those little details that give flavor to our daily lives and which, once finally recognized and appreciated, help us little by little to build a whole new perspective on life. Your gratitude list will help shine a light on the ‘beautiful and the good’ around you.

It will help you to appreciate and therefore cultivate the abundance and brilliance of your life

I assure you that cultivating gratitude is worth it! Try it and you’ll see.

Neuroscience proves it; I recommend this article based on research conducted at the University of Berkeley in California  “expanding the science and practice of gratitude”

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Christine Lewicki is a Bestselling Author, Speaker & Coach. She is committed to helping people quit complaining and become entrepreneurs of their lives. You can download your FREE “I quit complaining” starter kit on her blog www.iquitcomplaining.com . visit her Instagram page and  her Facebook page for inspirational articles and quotes to reveal the best version of yourself each day!

LEARNING TO LET GO OF OUR NEGATIVE THOUGHTS

Katie Byron, in her process of inquiry called The Work (www.thework.com), demonstrates that a thought is harmless unless we believe it. This is why she invites us to question ourselves in order to distance ourselves from what we think is “true”.

Doing this, we liberate ourselves from our resistance, we stop to mentally oppose ourselves to what is happening, thus we can better accept it and focus on finding a solution whether we are faced with an accident, loss of employment, a problem on the road, being late, health problems…

It’s not our thoughts, but our attachment to our thoughts, that causes suffering” says Byron. When we allow ourselves to complain, we let our negative thoughts become real. Through our complaints, they enter our conversations, our relationships, our daily life…and little by little they become our life, our identity. We end up believing them!

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It is important, to successfully complete this 21 days challenge to Quit Complaining, to distance ourselves from our complaints and not let them invade our being. We have to learn to let go, to question their appropriateness. However, I can assure you that we aren’t trying to suppress them. I am very well aware that it is practically impossible to prevent them from manifesting themselves in us and this isn’t the topic of this blog.

Our brain is a very active organ that thinks, thinks, thinks all day long. Our thoughts come and go without us being aware of it. They manifest themselves in our brain a thousand at a time and we can’t prevent them from doing so. Some are positive, some are negative. And at the end, this isn’t really important because they don’t hurt us. This is why in this challenge, complaining in your head doesn’t count. We just let the complain go by and keep going about our business.

The problem is when we start getting attached to our thoughts, to give them meaning and to express them through complaints. From that point on, we are embedding negative thoughts in our life. We anchor them. This challenge, however, invites us to find a healthy space to fully live our negative thoughts and get rid of them.

After that, the important thing is to learn how to let our negative thoughts come and go without disrupting our life and becoming attached to our frustration!

The idea here is not to deny our emotions. In the contrary, it is important to allow ourselves to feel our emotions. But after that it is necessary to let go, to not get attached to our negative thoughts, to not cling on to them or give them life through our conversations…by complaining!

It is true that sometimes we really have a way of rehashing the same worries. Our brain then works like a scratched record. It repeats and repeats and repeats itself almost all day. It’s stuck on complaints mode.

To discharge your frustrations, you can write in a journal, play a sport, take a walk around the block, talk to a friend in a constructive manner or see a specialized doctor if you think you need professional help.

I wish you a great day !

Love and Respect,

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Christine Lewicki

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Stop The Negative Voice in Our Head!

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“My words create my reality. If I change the message I have the power to change my life” Christine Lewicki

The little voices in our heads or the chatterbox…we all have it and it accompanies us everyday.

There’s the voice of enthusiasm full of projects, ideas. The voice that encourages us to grow and discover. It’s the little voice that says ” what if…”

And there’s the voice of fear that drags us down and kills our joy. The one that stops and prevents us from moving forward. It’s the little voice that says: ” I can’t do it …I am not capable…”

These two little voices or chatterbox live inside us and they are especially active in the creative, curious and entrepreneur types.

The voice of fear is often powerful and takes up lots of room in our lives. It often gets on our nerves, frustrates and gives us a bad image of ourselves. We’d like it to shut it up but to no avail.

Do you know the book called “Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway” by Susan Jeffers ? It’s an excellent book that encourages us to forge ahead with our projects beyond our fears.

Today, I’d like to invite you to consider and treat the voice of fear like your ally. I’d like you to ask yourself the following question: “How is this fear voice seeking my good?” What is it trying to tell you?

Could it be that this little fear voice is telling you are not ready,that the timing is not quite right… Take a good listen to hear what it is trying to tell you (versus limiting you) Sometimes fear is telling us that we are going through something very important for us. If we feel afraid it simply means we are living something important. It doesn’t necessarily mean that we have to stop and take a step back but on the contrary forge ahead and go forward because it matters. (with caution).

Once you’ve identified the messages, tune in again to the voice of enthusiasm and feed off it as soon as possible. Can you see how these two voices can become partners for your well-being and your growth?

I’d like to invite you to take notice of these two voices and really decipher what they are telling you… play and adjust the volume! Most important seek to identify the message of the little voice that limits you and replace the message with a stronger more positive message!

Love & Respect,

Christine Lewicki

© 2015

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On Ruminating and Brooding Over…

Did you know that in an ordinary day, about 60,000 or more thoughts go through the mind of an average person? and that 95% of these thoughts are the same as the day before.

We dwell-on and rehash over our complaints all day, we brood and ruminate over our negative thoughts and in the end become their prisoners.

The good and wonderful news is that should you replace your complaints with your celebrations for a few days , then you’ll automatically start to dwell over your celebrations and they will instead revisit your mind the next day! Therefore the challenge will become easier and easier! Life will be more enjoyable, too!

Now isn’t that good news to celebrate!

Love and Respect,

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Christine Lewicki

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