New year… New intention!

For some time now, I have been in the habit of adopting a keyword at the beginning of each year. This keyword is for me like an arrow aimed at life. It is an intention, a direction, a color, a flavor I want to bring to the heart of my daily life, my thoughts, my decisions and my actions.

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During the year I chose the keyword “Epic”, that daily affirmation gave me the courage to overcome my biggest fear, getting on the stage of TEDx. This is also the year when I dared to lead my first seminar, WAKE UP, in France and the year I tried to get out of the water on a wake board (and succeeded). This is a year where I chose to put myself in personally challenging situations to have a little more fun (actually a lot more fun!) with life.

When I chose the keyword “Dance” I started to give myself permission to go dancing more often. I embraced dance not only as an occasional weekend activity but as an appointment that I made with myself during the week – often during my office hours! That year I chose to train for my NIA white belt on a ranch in Texas. This is the year when I realized that dance for me was not something frivolous – it is a connection with my body, my heart, my soul. I understood that to continue to create and generate great ideas, it is vital that I spend a few hours regularly barefoot twirling on the floor.

Finally, 2015 the year “Impact” was the year I focused on structuring my activities to better serve humanity. I translated “J’arrête de râler” (“I Quit Complaining”) into English and I managed to get a contract with an American literary agent. This is also the year when I decided to surround myself with a new, brilliant and efficient team who can anticipate my needs and allow me to focus on what I do best – sharing my message, writing, speaking, and giving clarity and support to my coaching clients.

In 2016, I want to put the word CONTRIBUTION at the heart of my intentions and ambitions, and with that word the fundamental question that I invite you to explore:

What is the contribution I wish to bring to humanity?

Personally, in 2016, I want to commit myself 100% to helping people who want to activate their brilliance and contribute their lives in service to their community (Even the smallest contribution we make impacts society at large). I want to help those who wish to align their lives with their deepest desires and what they can bring to others. I want to empower all those who wish to transform their work into a life mission. I will be 100% committed to helping them awaken their purpose and activate their talent. It is this desire for a contribution that made me decide to launch the first WAKE UP forum, which will take place on March 18-20, 2016 in Lyon (France). A FORUM of exchange and interaction open to larger numbers of people, so that together we can reflect on the four fundamentals principles that prevent us from living life half-asleep. A place where surrounded by people on the same path, everyone can focus on the direction they want for their life. A place of brilliance and ambition so we can quit complaining and become DARING entrepreneurs of our own lives, the actors of tomorrow’s world.

This intent, the keyword CONTRIBUTION becomes a reference for me, an axis, a statement on awakening that helps me stay on the path I have chosen to follow. It helps me to stay connected with my inner strength, particularly when I meet obstacles in everyday life. (And who doesn’t?) It is not intended to replace your New Year’s resolution and can even give it more impact.

And you, what is the arrow that you wish to aim at life? What is the first word that comes to your mind?

What is the intent that lies in your heart and will give a direction, flavor, bright color to your everyday life?

© 2016

Christine Lewicki is a Bestselling Author, Speaker & Coach. She is committed to helping people quit complaining and become entrepreneurs of their lives. You can download your FREE “I quit complaining” starter kit on her blog www.iquitcomplaining.com and visit her Facebook page for inspirational articles and quotes to reveal the best version of yourself each day!

We all have our blaming story

The present is here whether we like it or not. We can disapprove of it, or disagree, but there’s no reason to fight it with complaints. Complaining tires us, it ruins our life, complaining is just an excuse to passively victimize ourselves. The 21 days challenge to Quit Complaining invites us to fully understand that and live our lives in a responsible manner.

Let’s quit complaining and choose who we want to be right this minute!

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Love and Respect,

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Christine Lewicki

© 2015

Christine Lewicki is a Bestselling Author, Speaker & Coach. She is committed to helping people quit complaining and become entrepreneurs of their lives. You can download your FREE “I quit complaining” starter kit on her blog www.iquitcomplaining.com and visit her Facebook page for inspirational articles and quotes to reveal the best version of yourself each day!

The tragedies of our lives!

Have you ever noticed how sometimes we can transform a simple frustration into a gigantic tragedy?

Something doesn’t happen as planned:

# Our train is late and we are going to miss an important appointment

# We have to pay more taxes than we thought

# Our employer is reorganizing the company and our responsibilities or schedule have to change

# We already have a million things to do and another task falls on our desk at work.

We constantly have to change our plans, to adapt, to make efforts and to not resist what is happening to us. Our frustration transforms itself in worldwide tragedy. The problem gets so big that we feel threatened.

I remember this happened to me. I had a big day of work ahead of me, multiple phone appointments with my clients. My coaching work happens on the phone 98% and my clients are in the United States, in Canada, Europe, Asia; they can be anywhere in the world. That being said, I use an Internet system to communicate to avoid massive bills. This morning, as I was turning on my computer at 8:40 am, I noticed that my Internet connection wasn’t working properly and kept going offline…and my first phone appointment was already 20 minutes late! I started to panic and I heard myself say: “They are going to kill my business if it keeps going this way if my connection doesn’t work it’ll cost me a fortune.” My words were clearly exaggerated.
This tendency to overreact happens to all of us, sometimes, and too often to some of us. We find ourselves saying things like “ This is killing me”,“They are so damn stupid”, “They can’t do anything right”, “What a bunch of incompetent”, “This is a disaster”.

Love and Respect,

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Christine Lewicki

© 2015

“Christine Lewicki is a Bestselling Author, Speaker & Coach. She is committed to helping people quit complaining and become entrepreneurs of their lives. You can download your FREE “I quit complaining” starter kit on her blog www.iquitcomplaining.com and visit her Facebook page for inspirational articles and quotes to reveal the best version of yourself each day!

We may not realize the weight we carry with us all day!

I found this story very relevant to the I Quit Complaining Journey ! Thank you so much Melissa Rempfer for sharing it with me.

I spun it in the end to create a visual for this blog. What do you think?

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“A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the “half empty or half full” question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: “How heavy is this glass of water?” Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz. She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn’t change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.” She continued, “The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything.” It’s important to remember to let go of your stresses. As early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don’t carry them through the evening and into the night. Remember to put the glass down!”

Love and Respect,

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Christine Lewicki

© 2015

“Christine Lewicki is a Bestselling Author, Speaker & Coach. She is committed to helping people quit complaining and become entrepreneurs of their lives. You can download your FREE “I quit complaining” starter kit on her blog www.iquitcomplaining.com and visit her Facebook page for inspirational articles and quotes to reveal the best version of yourself each day!

 

Am I complaining here? (video)

I did this video to answer one of the main question that people ask me when they start their 21 days challenge to quit complaining:

Am I complaining here? or Am I simply trying to set a limit or express a frustration (in a healthy way… of course) so that people stop stepping on my toes?

This question is important because embarking on this challenge does NOT mean that you can’t tell people what is not working for you (there is no way you will last 21 days otherwise!). So what are the criteria to identify a complaint ?  and how can you use them to embrace a new way of communicating with the people around you (at home or at work!)

Love and Respect,

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Christine Lewicki

© 2015

Christine Lewicki is a Bestselling Author, Speaker & Coach. She is committed to help people quit complaining and become entrepreneurs of their lives. You can download your FREE “I quit complaining” starter kit on her blog www.iquitcomplaining.com and visit her Facebook page for inspirational articles and quotes to reveal the best version of yourself each day!

If I had seen my own book in a bookstore…..

I always saw myself as a pretty positive person.

If I had seen my own book in a bookstore, I would NOT have bought it, because I thought I was not a complainer….until the day I had a life altering revelation. Watch the video to find out more.

Love and Respect,

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Christine Lewicki

© 2015

“Christine Lewicki is a Bestselling Author, Speaker & Coach. She is committed to help people quit complaining and become entrepreneurs of their lives. You can download your FREE “I quit complaining” starter kit on her blog www.iquitcomplaining.com and visit her Facebook page for inspirational articles and quotes to reveal the best version of yourself each day!

BEWARE THE PRESSURE COOKER EFFECT …

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“I Quit Complaining” may seem like admitting weakness, or being a yes-man. But to “quit complaining” doesn’t mean to “agree to everything” or “deny our disapproval.”

I noticed, as I was doing the 21 day challenge, that quite often I would end-up complaining  after experiencing a situation for too long, or when a situation would recur repetitively. I complained because I would try to bottle my frustration, to try to see things positively, to assume responsibility, and stay quiet to avoid acting like a hysterical witch… And in the end, after a while, I just exploded! I exploded just like the lid of a pressure cooker that has been lifted off. So much  pressure had built up that it became unbearable and it had to come out! While releasing the pressure, I would still fuss about the situation. During those moments, we tend to say that “complaining serves a purpose” or “it’s not healthy to hold the pressure in, it’s healthier to let it out”! The question is: couldn’t we actually have avoided getting to that point?

I made the realization that when faced with a difficult situation, it’s important not to suppress my frustration, not try to keep it in, because in the end the pressure cooker will explode – and sometimes (often times)  the pressure will explode unexpectedly and has nothing to do with my initial frustration!

Let’s look at an example from my own life: I’m frustrated because my young daughter is crying for me to carry her in my arms all day long. I cave in because I don’t have the courage to handle the situation and manage the crisis that will ensue if I say no, so I decide to stay quiet. I carry her and I do everything I can to make her stop yelling in my ears. I take it in stride… and at some point later in the day, my other daughter asks for something and my reaction is to explode!

I’m sick of this, it’s not possible, I can’t do everything, I’m tired, you can figure it out on your own!!!” My answer is completely disproportionate in relation to her demand because it’s linked to another long-standing and bottled up frustration. The pressure cooker exploded on my other daughter who hasn’t done anything. She takes the hit from the frustration I bottled in all day long because I wasn’t able to take care of myself and my needs. I couldn’t respect my limits and now I’m feeling sad and guilty for my over-reaction.

Another real life situation for those who  don’t have kids:

I’m working on a difficult project for many days – hours are going by and I’m far from being done. I could get some help, but I don’t know how and I’m afraid that it’ll cost too much (and it’s easier to get it done myself than to train someone to do it for me). I’m skipping meals, I go to bed late, I’m exhausted. I’m starting to get very  frustrated. In addition, it’s not the first time that this situation happens. On top of it, other people are coming to me to get some help. It’s not a lot, just one little thing here, one little thing there, so I say yes because I can’t see myself saying no. They are after all people I actually do want to help. After a while, I start feeling as though I’m stretched out in all directions. Finally, one day, at the end of the day, my computer breaks down and then I explode!  I start complaining and I’m really angry.  Computer problems are just the cherry on top, the trigger that makes the pressure cooker go overboard. But the pressure had been building up for a few days, progressively, and I didn’t do anything to try to reduce it as time went by. I let the situation get worse.

Doing the challenge helped me to realize the importance of releasing the pressure regularly as time went by. It’s important to be careful when I feel the pressure building up, to take care of myself, to set my limits, express my needs, say no when needed, ask for help,  release the pressure before it worsens and sometimes also change my point of view on the situation. It’s a constant challenge, at every hour, every moment, but it brings such serenity.

Listen to your body, acknowledge, and stop when you feel the pressure building up, heat coming on, your stomach in a knot…your body is talking to you and telling you that the situation is about to get even worse. What can you do to ease the pressure? Define three actions and plan to implement them within the next 48 hours.

Love & Respect,

Christine Lewicki

© 2015

Want to you use this article in your newsletter, blog, or on your website? You can, as long as you include the following blurb:

“Christine Lewicki is a Bestselling Author, Speaker & Coach. She is committed to help people quit complaining and become entrepreneurs of their lives. You can download your FREE “I quit complaining” starter kit on her blog www.iquitcomplaining.com and visit her Facebook page for inspirational articles and quotes to reveal the best version of yourself each day!

4 Golden Rules to Manage Time Without Complaining !

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It’s easy to get side-tracked with all the things we need to do during the day! Without proper preparation and focus we can waste precious time and this may lead to feeling frustrated and we end up  complaining!

Have you ever started off  your day with great intentions and energy to conquer all  to complete your TO DO list, only to find yourself a few hours later still handling your emails or getting lost in the amount of info popping left and right  from your computer screen and losing track of the task at hand?

You’re not alone! It’s so easy to get overwhelmed and distracted.  How can you manage your time more effectively and actually get things done everyday to avoid  complaining?  I’d like to share with you my 4 Golden Rules that I use and that help me be more productive and keep on task.

GOLDEN RULE #1 – Get up early – The first thing that allows me to take action towards my goal and ambition is to have the “discipline” to get up early to start my day before everyone else at home, 5 days out of 7,  I get up before the house wakes up with a “ fresh mind” and a cup of coffee. It’s not always easy to stick to, but in the end I know I will have more satisfaction to advance on my projects versus spending an additional 2 hours sleeping-in! (I can always take a nap after lunch)

GOLDEN RULE #2  – Exercise –  Taking care of my body allows me to feel “empowered’ and “connected: in all areas of my life”.  There’s no excuses to procrastinate and postpone to the next day. We can ALWAYS find at least 10 minutes in a day to exercise and feel great in the process!

GOLDEN RULE  #3 – Remain clear on what you want to accomplice –  I can’t accomplish anything big when my head is filled with all these  “TO DO” things.  It feels as if everything is spinning in every corner and I live anxiously fearing to forget something. When I start my day,  I need to know exactly what needs to be done urgently and also be able to devote some time to  a project that matters to me. If I want to make progress, not waste time  and avoid  feeling frustrated and complain,  I know that I must give myself every opportunity to accomplish the task I need and to do this I use the marvelous ( and free) tool called KANBAN 

GOLDEN RULE #4- Stay focused to work more effectively and less – There’s nothing worse  for me than to start  my day with good intention only to allow  my computer, emails, and demands from others invade me. Time just flies and I end up wasting precious time  feeling more disappointed and confused than before I started and this is great feeding ground for complaining!   Once I am clear on the tasks that I need to accomplish in my schedule, I must stay focused on the task  ( no answering phone calls, making a cup of coffee,  checking Facebook etc… )  For the last few years now, I  have relied on the Pomodoro Technique  to keep me on track and it works like a charm.

Let me know how this works out for you! How do you manage your time without complaining and tell me how your 21 Day Quit Complaining Challenge is going?

Love & Respect,

Christine Lewicki

© 2015

Want to you use this article in your newsletter, blog, or on your website? You can, as long as you include the following blurb:

“Christine Lewicki is a Bestselling Author, Speaker & Coach. She is committed to help people quit complaining and become entrepreneurs of their lives. You can download your FREE “I quit complaining” starter kit on her blog www.iquitcomplaining.com and visit her Facebook page for inspirational articles and quotes to reveal the best version of yourself each day!

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How to Reveal the Best Version of Yourself

We spend such energy working on our business growth & development all year, it’s shame to lose momentum in the summer and then have to double up our energy and efforts in the fall  to relaunch it, especially when we are heading for the last haul and trimester of the year. What if summer became an ally to our success? What if summer was not only a source of  rest and relaxation, but also a source of wealth and power?

To avoid complaining about back to business, try my 4 tips to put summer at the service of your projects and reveal the best version of yourself in the process.

  • Dare create the space for your creativity. During the summer we have the luxury of more time! We can ease up on our to do list and our emails and finally enjoy  activating our creativity. Do you dream of writing? We are entering a season particularly well suited  to advance on a book project or take care of a blog.  Step by step,  have the gentle discipline to dare put your great ideas on paper.
  • Create your vision for the next upcoming months.  As we are taking some distance for the daily spiral of activities, summer is a privilege time to reevaluate your vision for the fall. You can use  techniques like Mind-mapping and answer the following questions:
  1. What are 3 projects that are close to my heart in the next 6 months ?
  2. What means do I have to devote to these projects? (time, competencies, money…)
  3. What quality time do I want to put at he heart of my life to take care of my source ? (yoga, singing, dancing, nature walks, meditation…)
  4. Do I feel like enrolling in a seminar or training? (what and how much…)
  5. How can I contribute more value to others? (my colleagues, teams, clients…)
  6. What are the 3 actions that I want to put in action in September to have the biggest impact in my life?
  • Reconnect with the wisdom of your body and your soul .  With the weight of stress and responsibility, we tend to surrender control of our life to our brain. Our brain manages, avoids problems, finds solution… we spend a great deal of our year reasoning, thinking, analyzing and coming up with solutions. Our brain is the boss and our future depends on its ability to analyze situations and make the right decisions. Try to quiet your brain and use another form of intelligence:  the intelligence of your body and soul. What if your heart was seeking to tell you something? Are you ready to hear and listen?  You’ll need to disconnect from your brain a bit, empty the space and reconnect with your inner self. Dance, mediate, move, explore the possibilities of your body are all ways to do that.  Remove the blockages which prevent brilliance to emerge and dare see the invisible and hear the inaudible.
  • Celebrate. Summer is also the time to celebrate. Celebrate what we have accomplished   over the year and take the time to rejoice in the beautiful things that life ( or other people)  has brought us and which may  have gone unnoticed. Take the time to SAY thank you to significant others in your life, your spouse, family, friends, colleagues, and life in general. We have such an innate ability to express our complaints and dissatisfaction focusing on what others have done poorly or not done for us..  let’s make an effort to whine ourselves from all  negativity and let’s have the guts to develop our celebration muscle. 

Do you want to allow your great ideas emerge and receive support to reveal the best version of you? You can still  join the  on-going 21 Day Challenge to Quit  Complaining and Bitching!

Love & Respect,

Christine Lewicki

© 2015

Want to you use this article in your newsletter, blog, or on your website? You can, as long as you include the following blurb:

“Christine Lewicki is a Bestselling Author, Speaker & Coach. She is committed to help people quit complaining and become entrepreneurs of their lives. You can download your FREE “I quit complaining” starter kit on her blog www.iquitcomplaining.com and visit her Facebook page for inspirational articles and quotes to reveal the best version of yourself each day!

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Taking Charge of Your Life NOW!

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21 consecutive days without complaining… a life changing challenge, that you will probably never start because of all the excuses you’ll find.

To successfully complete this challenge, we have to stop postponing it and start right away. Part of you probably has a deep desire to integrate this transformation in your life. Yet, I bet that one part of you is tempted to put this off until tomorrow. Part of you wants to wait until you’re “ready”. There is always something to “take care of” before we start. Maybe you’re telling yourself:

I’ll quit complaining when”…

#I’ll have a job

#I’ll be less tired

#I’ll be done moving

#I’ll have a boyfriend/girlfriend

#I’ll have a new job and won’t have to endure my boss anymore

#I won’t have money problems

In a way, we all have a tendency to believe that our life will be better and happier later, when things will have changed… and then we’ll be able to quit complaining.

Ads and marketing campaigns flooding the media actually try to convince us of that. They are everywhere, in public transit, on the side of the road, on the television, the radio… They tell us how wonderful our life will be when… we will buy this amazing new product or will have access to this new service. This brand new car is the key to our happiness, we’ll finally be seen and recognized, this lipstick will boost our self-esteem, this supplement will allow us to feel energized and healthy…

And, in the end, we are constantly creating “conditions” for our happiness and serenity. We are waiting for everything to be perfect, and we end up postponing until tomorrow, or the day after tomorrow, to fully enjoy our life. And so on.

“I Quit Complaining” is a challenge that invites you to get out of this spiral that prevents you from fully enjoying every day of your life just the way it is, with its troubles, problems, frustrations… This spiral that pushes you to always want something different and to become an eternally unsatisfied being. Have you ever noticed how we often complain about how it’s too hot outside when two days ago we were complaining about the cold weather?

With this challenge, you can draw from your enormous ability (often ignored) to adapt without having to whine about wanting something different.

Are you ready NOW?

Love & Respect,

Christine Lewicki

© 2015

Want to you use this article in your newsletter, blog, or on your website? You can, as long as you include the following blurb:

“Christine Lewicki is a Bestselling Author, Speaker & Coach. She is committed  to help people quit complaining and become entrepreneurs of their lives. You can download your FREE ”I Quit Complaining Starter Kit”  on her blog www.iquitcomplaining.com

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