Be the Change

THE COMPLAINERS AND I

Yes, I was the complainer and played victim. before I started the 21 Day Quit Complaining challenge… and another thing that motivated me to take over this challenge was how much I was affected by the complainers all around me.

Being surrounded by complainers in my daily life, out in public, at work, at home, takes up a lot of my energy. I am sensitive to their negativity and it usually ruins my day. I might end up feeling their anger, or I sympathize with their complaints, sometimes I even feel guilty and end up asking myself if I did anything to make them complain!

What about you? Are there any complainers in your life? How do you feel when you hear them whine?

For me, this was all a realization. The way I react when surrounded by complainers made me realize the importance of not complaining for my husband, my kids, my friends, professional relations or even my colleagues.

If other people’s complaints affect me that much, I have and had  to change.

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” Be the change you want to see in the world ” Ghandi

I remember very vividly the day when things clicked and I decided to finally start the challenge. I had this idea to do 21 days without complaining a few weeks prior, but at that time I didn’t have the courage to dive in. Twenty-one days without complaining is a lot. I made up a bunch of excuses: I don’t have time, it’s not the right time, I don’t want to have one more thing to stress over or even think about.

But despite all of this, one day when we were hanging out with close friends, things just clicked. We were all together eating some good food at my friend Sabine’s house, who was nice enough to have us over. A nice Sunday meal with all the kids running around, while the parents enjoyed a cup of a coffee after the feast. Then we started talking about people who complain all the time. We all agreed that it was exhausting to be surrounded by complainers. And then I heard myself say: “those people who complain all the time are lame, they’re wasting their time…”. At this very moment, it clicked: I realized that I was now complaining about complainers!

It took me this very moment to finally decide to do it, to get out of this downward spiral, of this habit I don’t like. And this is how the “I Quit Complaining” challenge was anchored in my life.

 THANK YOU,  GANDHI

Love & Respect,

Christine Lewicki

© 2015

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What is Your Recurrent Complaint?

What is you recurrent complaint? Is there a complaint that comes out of your mouth more often than others. This one is almost automatic, it comes back almost every day, sometimes even many times during the same day, or even first thing upon awakening.

For me, I found that my recurrent complaint has been “I am too fat”, or “I am not making enough money”, or ” I spend too much time on my emails”.

As soon as I decided to embark on this journey to quit complaining, I realized that I had to start to do something different in my life if I wanted to get a different result. As Einstein says it very well “insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result”.

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So, I decided to replace insanity with discipline. If I wanted to stop complaining about my body I had to do something every day toward getting fit or else I should let go of my expectation to have a fit body ! Simple, right ?

We complain when there is gap between what we expect and  our reality. The most powerful way to reduce suffering and thus the complaining that goes with it is to reduce this gap. Either we work on improving  our reality, or we work on letting go of our expectations!

That’s when discipline becomes our best friend. Instead of seeing discipline as a constraint we start to see it as our key to freedom and fulfillment. Setting free of our frustrations, dealing with them one day at a time to create the life that we truly want.

You cannot be happy without discipline. In fact, if you want to measure the level of happiness in your life, measure your level of discipline. You will never have more happiness than you have discipline. The two are directly linked to each other. If you want to increase the level of fulfillment and happiness in a certain area of your life, increase your level of discipline in that area of your life. On the other hand, if you find that you are altogether too happy too much of the time, you may want to think about decreasing the level of discipline in your life. Discipline and happiness are directly linked.”   ~ Matthew Kelly from Perfectly Yourself

Love & Respect,

Christine Lewicki

© 2015

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“Christine Lewicki is committed to help people quit complaining and become entrepreneurs of their lives. You can download your FREE ”I Quit Complaining Starter Kit” on her blog www.iquitcomplaining.com

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