Stop Complaining and Just Do IT!

Stop Complaining!  Let go! Just Do it! We KNOW what we need to do to be happier in our lives. We have “Haha!” moments, intuitive insights but then the next day or sometimes even the following hour, doubt takes over and we don’t follow through on our good intentions! We KNOW what we need to do but somehow we find a thousand excuses not to start and we procrastinate!

I can’t do it today, I already have too many things going on, I’ll start tomorrow!” In the end, we let other things take over and watch our lives go by as a spectator. The hardest part is to CHOOSE to live a better life and START to do IT! The “IT” that we want to do does not yet have a place in our busy lives and starting means to make room for it. Choosing to do “IT” instead of answering all the emails, surfing the web, having another cup of tea, starting a load of laundry or watching something on TV etc..

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I am always surprised to notice how my emails can become much more important than what I KNOW will contribute to my life. Sometimes I just want to shout ” Stop sending  me emails!” “I have a life to live!” (hummmmm…am I complaining, now?)

I am becoming more and more aware of all those times when I want to give to others before giving to myself. I have important (or not) emails in my box or comments on my blog and I have the urge to reply right away and I end up choosing to give “to myself”, later.

Today, I feel that I must focus on my well-being and happiness FIRST in my life. My biggest responsibility in life is to take care of me. In doing so, I will be nourished, inspired, happy , in good health to better ( and not more) help others and contribute.

“What” I want to do personally at this point in my life, is to create a bigger discipline in my life and a daily ritual which will contribute to my well-being . This “IT’, I’ve been thinking about it for the last 2 months and it is time that I turn this “idea” into a “reality” because in the long run just thinking about it and thinking I’ll get to do it one day , well it makes my head spin! ….

What is  this “IT” that you’ve  been procrastinating about in your life?

Love and Respect,

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© 2015

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There is NO Lucky Victim

One of the biggest lessons I learned during my 21 day I Quit Complaining Challenge” was the realization I made of how many times in my life I really felt like a victim.

For instance, when the school changed the schedule at the last-minute upsetting my whole day’s planning,  when my hotel messed up my reservation, when my kids woke me up in the middle of the night, when the city street work  created traffic jams causing me to be late for my appointments, when the economy was bad and my finances were hurting, when electricity was shut off because I forgot to pay the bill on time, when my Internet connection was slow, when someone forgot to cancel their appointment with me and I ended up wasting my precious time waiting for them…

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All these incidents were like daggers through my heart and I felt like port little victim. Often, it was just too much to bare and I just wanted to just give up and say: “This is  just the worst day of my life!  or “I knew it, this only happens to me! ” or even : “It never fails…more problems to deal with!”

When I stumbled upon the  tale about the Donkey and the Well  it really had an impact and  helped me change my outlook on things. I had read it a few years back but all of a sudden during my challenge it started making a lot more sense and I could really apply it in my life. So here it is:

The Donkey in the Well
One day a farmer’s donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn’t worth it to retrieve the donkey.
He invited all his neighbors to come over & help him. They all grabbed a dirt & began to shovel dirt into the well. At first, the donkey realized what was happening & cried horribly. Then, to everyone’s amazement he quieted down.
A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well. He was astonished at what he saw. With each shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing. He would shake it off & take a step up.
As the farmer’s neighbors continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off & take a step up. Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well & happily trotted off! 

The lesson I learned in this tale is that life would try to kick me when I am  down and that the best way to get back up is to shake it off and keep moving forward. I learned that each of our problems is like a stepping-stone towards progress. We can get out of the deepest well  if we just keep on moving. Never give up! Shake it off! Start climbing!

If the donkey had chosen to be a victim and kept on whining and complaining, he would have been buried at the bottom of the well.  Instead, he chose to take charge and be creative.

Often times, when I feel like I’m at the bottom of the well myself, I think about this donkey. When I feel paralyzed by what’s happening to me and I just want to point a finger towards other people and complain, I remember that it won’t help me get out of this hole. Quite the opposite, if I just complain about what’s happening, I’ll end up buried under my own complaints.

With this in mind, no matter what happens to me, even if I feel like I’m suffering through something that “someone is doing to me”, I now try to not waste my energy with complaints or judgments, because I know now that this will only make me more miserable  and will keep me stuck in the victim role and prevent me from moving forward!

Love and Respect,

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Christine Lewicki

© 2015

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10 Things I Learned When I Stopped Yelling at My Kids

Simply awesome article in the Huffington Post about the Orange Rhino and the story of this mom of 4 boys who made a commitment to stop yelling at her kids for 365 days !

Start reading below and then click HERE for the full article

10 Things I Learned When I Stopped Yelling at My Kids

Mom to 4 young boys, former yeller, blogger at TheOrangeRhino.com

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January 20, 2012. I will never forget that date. Thinking I was home alone with my four boys, then ages 5 and under, my handyman caught me in a full on, red in the face, body shaking, throat throbbing scream so bad that all my boys burst into tears. I was mortified. Mortified! And so sad; this was not the mom I had ever dreamed I would be! The next day I decided enough was enough and I promised my boys I would go 365 days straight without yelling. Soon thereafter I discovered that rhinos are calm animals that charge when provoked; I was so a rhino (I even have lots of stretch marks and saggy body parts to prove it.) I just charged with my words instead of a horn. I quickly started calling myself The Orange Rhino as a reminder to no longer yell, but instead to be calm like a rhino and warm like the color orange.

I proudly share that I am officially an Orange Rhino! I haven’t charged with my words in over 400 days thanks to many things I learned this past year. Here are the top 10 things that I learned but trust me, there are many many more!

1. Yelling isn’t the only thing I haven’t done in over a year.

I also haven’t gone to bed with a gut-wrenching pit in my stomach because I felt like the worst mom ever. I haven’t bawled to my husband that I yelled again and again. And I haven’t heard my sons scream, “You’re the meanest, worsest, mommy in the whole world, I don’t love you anymore!”

2. My kids are my most important audience.

When I had my “no more yelling epiphany,” I realized that I don’t yell in the presence of others because I want them to believe I am a loving and patient mom. The truth is, I already was that way… but rarely when I was alone, just always when I was in public with an audience to judge me. This is so backwards! I always have an audience — my four boys are always watching me and THEY are the audience that matters most; they are the ones I want to show just how loving, patient and “yell-free” I can be. I want my boys to judge me and proclaim, “My mommy is the bestest mommy ever!” I remember this whenever I am home and thinking I can’t keep it together; obviously I can… I do it out and about all the time!

 

CONTINUE READING HERE

 

 

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CHECK OUT THE ORANGE RHINO HERE

Love & Respect,

Christine Lewicki

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Interview I Quit Complaining {and Bitching} with Saskia Roell on Transformation Talk Radio

A few weeks ago I had the pleasure to be interviewed by Saskia Roell on the Transformation Talk Radio

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HERE IS THE LINK IF YOU WANT TO LISTEN

http://www.thedrpatshow.com/shows/sr-130227-lewicki.mp3

We talked about:

  • Where this idea of doing a 21 day challenge to stop complaining came from ( my haha moment)
  • Why having negative thoughts in your head is not considered complaining ?
  • What is complaining ? listen to my 3 criteria to define a complaint
  • What is the number one thing you need to change in your day if you want to transform your life and why?
  • What do you do when you wake up and complaining is not an option anymore ?

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Love and Respect,

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Christine Lewicki

© 2013

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Celebración !

After Italian and Japanese, “J’Arrête de Râler” – I stop Complaining!  is now translated in Spanish!

Whoohoo ! Celebración !

What a magical experience to see my book translated in all these languages!

You can’t imagine the amount of gratitude I am feeling in my heart for this wonderful adventure and how grateful I am to my readers, too!

 

Love and Respect,

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Christine Lewicki

© 2012

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PS: I now offer conferences & seminars for companies on
” Stop Complaining at work!” Contact me if you are interested.

20 ways to get good Karma by the Dalai Lama

At the beginning of this year I wanted to share with you a great message that I recently came across: 20 ways to get good karma by the Dalai Lama.
You’ll see that many of them would be very powerful to support you ( and me) on the journey of not complaining.

You can read the first 10 here and for the rest follow the past to the original post on Spiritualnow.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Who is Feeding My Being?

IQC TV inputDuring our fast-paced frenetic days we receive a lot of conscious and unconscious information via the media and our immediate surroundings.

These last few years, I have become very aware that information has a powerful impact in my life as it defines my vision of the world.
We are all subject to the media messages created by marketers to manipulate our impulses as consumers and we end up with useless stuff in our closets. I am not against marketing, on the contrary, it can be really powerful to touch people’s lives when we combine integrity, purpose, and authenticity. But I feel that it’s important as consumers to take a step back and reevaluate what we really need to better our lives. Personally, I realize that If I take the time to rise above my spending cravings, I am more inclined to invest my money in better whole foods, training, books, help, advice,leisure, save money for the future and also donate some of it to people who are inspiring me.

In order to rise above, I find that it is important that I choose wisely the information that I absorb on a daily basis. This apply to the marketing messages that I absorb but also to all the messages that are reaching my conscious and unconscious mind.
During my last visit in Paris as I was starting my day off to a meeting, I was handed a free News magazine at the metro entrance. I noticed most people around were also taking it and like me started reading it during the metro ride. It dawned on me that on the same day thousands and thousands of people were reading the same free magazine in the metro, truly AMAZING ! Except that what I read was dreadfully negative and depressing. After reading for about 20mn, I told myself I might as well skip my meeting and escape to the nearest movie theater as advertized in the magazine since our world leaders were making wrong decisions, we were stuck in a crisis and the future looked so bleaked and gloomy. I felt empty and powerless, and the idea that so many people today were fed the same information was quite depressing.

I know that what I read can either uplift and nourish me or rob my energy. Don’t get me wrong, I understand that it is important to keep up with world events and be aware of new laws, regulations and the political and economical situation of our planet, but does that mean that I want to absorb ALL information like a sponge? Do I really want to allow the media to spoon-feed me ( of even stuff me) their information or can I take the time and the decision to actually be a choice and choose the quality of what I want to absorb.

We are constantly making progress even though it will never be perfect. For example, when my daughter was 4 years old we made the decision to store the TV in the garage and it has remained there for the last 7 years! We watch movies with the family on a big screen at home (on the week-end only) and my husband and I choose interesting programs or TV shows we enjoy on line. We also enjoy the TED.com interviews and articles and we selected a particular magazine to keep up with current events. We have freed ourselves from the heavy load of commercial programming or the dramatized evening news which creates more drama in our already complicated lives.

I am constantly trying to improve and really choose my INPUT in my life. I know that by changing the quality of the information that enters my consciousness, I can be energized to contribute to my life instead of feeling consumed by it. I can go from complaining to celebrating.

Love and Respect,

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Christine Lewicki

© 2011

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