There is NO Lucky Victim

One of the biggest lessons I learned during my 21 day I Quit Complaining Challenge” was the realization I made of how many times in my life I really felt like a victim.

For instance, when the school changed the schedule at the last-minute upsetting my whole day’s planning,  when my hotel messed up my reservation, when my kids woke me up in the middle of the night, when the city street work  created traffic jams causing me to be late for my appointments, when the economy was bad and my finances were hurting, when electricity was shut off because I forgot to pay the bill on time, when my Internet connection was slow, when someone forgot to cancel their appointment with me and I ended up wasting my precious time waiting for them…

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All these incidents were like daggers through my heart and I felt like port little victim. Often, it was just too much to bare and I just wanted to just give up and say: “This is  just the worst day of my life!  or “I knew it, this only happens to me! ” or even : “It never fails…more problems to deal with!”

When I stumbled upon the  tale about the Donkey and the Well  it really had an impact and  helped me change my outlook on things. I had read it a few years back but all of a sudden during my challenge it started making a lot more sense and I could really apply it in my life. So here it is:

The Donkey in the Well
One day a farmer’s donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn’t worth it to retrieve the donkey.
He invited all his neighbors to come over & help him. They all grabbed a dirt & began to shovel dirt into the well. At first, the donkey realized what was happening & cried horribly. Then, to everyone’s amazement he quieted down.
A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well. He was astonished at what he saw. With each shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing. He would shake it off & take a step up.
As the farmer’s neighbors continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off & take a step up. Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well & happily trotted off! 

The lesson I learned in this tale is that life would try to kick me when I am  down and that the best way to get back up is to shake it off and keep moving forward. I learned that each of our problems is like a stepping-stone towards progress. We can get out of the deepest well  if we just keep on moving. Never give up! Shake it off! Start climbing!

If the donkey had chosen to be a victim and kept on whining and complaining, he would have been buried at the bottom of the well.  Instead, he chose to take charge and be creative.

Often times, when I feel like I’m at the bottom of the well myself, I think about this donkey. When I feel paralyzed by what’s happening to me and I just want to point a finger towards other people and complain, I remember that it won’t help me get out of this hole. Quite the opposite, if I just complain about what’s happening, I’ll end up buried under my own complaints.

With this in mind, no matter what happens to me, even if I feel like I’m suffering through something that “someone is doing to me”, I now try to not waste my energy with complaints or judgments, because I know now that this will only make me more miserable  and will keep me stuck in the victim role and prevent me from moving forward!

Love and Respect,



Christine Lewicki

© 2015

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